Sunday, January 20, 2013

The "Male" Biological Clock...Does it Exist or What?


Baby Boom, 1987

I've heard rumors of there being a perfect 20 minutes in a family now and again where there is peace amongst the chaos. The rambunctious child is asked to sit down and eat their food and they do so, the baby is quieted by the soft cooing of it's mother's voice, and this beautiful scene resonates harmony to an overlooking bystander.  Such a scene was witnessed by an almost 31 year old man and like the Grinch that stole Christmas, his heart got bigger and bigger.  Then the following words were said, "Look at that family, Chloe...I want to be that family. Let's have a baby." Instantly a little clock started ticking in my head and then a little part of me began to freak out. 

This weekend Craig, who is turning 31 on Friday, and I, I'm 27 btw, were at Qdoba and honestly we saw the cutest family enjoying a couple of burritos, laughing and having fun in the booth behind us. I faced Craig so I only caught glimpses of them, but Craig watched them the whole time. He smiled mid-bite often at something said by the family and there was this odd twinkle in his eye that I had never seen before. When the little boy turned around to our booth he shouted "Hi" to us, Craig with a goofy smile waved back at the lil guy. They both giggled and Craig beamed from ear to ear. The moment was sobering...Oh so sobering. I think his "clock" started...

Guys can odd at times. They don't let you into their minds for whatever reasons specific to the guy, so it's can be a guessing game of possibilities. Women can be no better with expressing their feelings, but guys are definitely more elusive I think. I feel like I'm lucky because Craig is blunt and honest about his feelings. Even the bad things. I expected him to be weird, funny or change the subject when I told him I thought his "Clock" started, but no...he shook his head in a yes and said, "Wow, Babe. I think your right. Wtf? Am I supposed to have One?"

Three men and a baby, 1987

Do guys have biological clock? Of course women do, but I'm not banging my foot yet like Marisa Tomei in My Cousin Vinny just yet. Do guys get that paternal instinct?? Do they get that itch to play ball and catch or dress up for a mini tea party? I've never been a parent so I honestly don't know. I've seen Craig be happy as hell to leave a family party...tired as hell because his cousin's kids have been all over him, but then I've seen him play for hours and hours and be happy as a clam. It's odd...

I've always dreamed of getting married then hopefully waiting at least a year than think about having kids...Or at least I'd like to Move In Together first...

What do you think on the subject?

Do Men have a Biological Clock too? 

 What to Expect When Your Expecting, 2012

12 comments:

  1. I'm not sure about that, but this is certainly an interesting topic to ponder over. Have a good week! xoxo

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  2. I don't think it's the same clock as women, but women actually do have a finite amount of time to have kids and men can procreate up until the day they day, but I think men do hit a point when family becomes a priority. My husband said when he turned 26, he was done dating for fun. He was interviewing women to be his wife. He was 28 when he met me and apparently I passed the interview. :)

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  3. I also would want to wait until I've been living with my guy and be married before I have a baby. My boyfriend & I have talked about it & we agree on what we want to accomplish beforehand, but nonetheless we both definitely want kids but know that it won't happen until years from now.

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  4. Wow - some interesting points here! I'm 28 and my clock started making noises about 6 months ago. My partner is 36 next month, and swings between telling me that he doesn't want to be an old dad, and then talking about having kids in five years time. I think sometimes he forgets how old he is! I always thought I'd be married and have kids by the time I was 30, although that only gives me 18 months - eeek! If I were you I'd talk to Craig and set out the steps that you want to happen before the kids bit - it's something I should have done with my other half a while ago... Good luck!!
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  5. As a male, I can honestly say that I think we do have a biological clock. It's a hard thing to explain, but we can definitely get "baby fever". I had this weird dream last year that I had an infant daughter and was rocking her to sleep to the slow version of Rihanna's "Umbrella". So now, even a year later, whenever I hear that song it makes me want a baby lol.

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  6. I don't know if they have a biological clock, but I think that man have a different point of view of family, and a different priority. In the same time I think that every person, man or woman, are different each other, and this is the beauty of the world.

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  7. hummm.. sounds very interesting, the funny thing is you cant predict a guy until you are married, i am telling you from experience lol, am a mother of two and i thing my hubby is doing absolutely awesome i pray it continues like that lmfao. great post lurvn it.
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  8. i think so. as a guy starts to get to his 30s, he starts to think about his future and what he's done so far (well, most guys). i also think that for the most part, men know if they want kids or not. not right now but "someday".

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  9. I'm not sure, but the way you described Craig, that is so super sweet! Bet you got butterflies just by watching him!

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  10. I think everyone has a biological clock... I also think this made me smile big time! The thought of Craig saying that to you must have given you butterflies. :)

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  11. LOL, I just saw Jane's comment!

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