Craig's old band (Craig is 2nd to the right with the orange bass guitar next to the drummer)
Photo taken by me
Almost 4 years ago when I met Craig he was learning to play the guitar. I knew he could play the bass too. In all this time, I never would have imagined he'd be rocking out in a Brooklyn, NYC venue up on a stage in front of the blaring lights! It's been a wild ride and several new instruments later the band up on stage is breaking up...and I'm at a loss for words.
In the past 3 and a half years Craig has been in 3 bands all of which has fallen apart for various reasons. It seems when it all becomes real people bail and it honestly sucks. Craig and I didn't live together when the first 2 bands were going on and I didn't see how much went into being a band or how much Craig has giving up. This past year living together I've seen the practicing, the tired nights coming home after a 11am show in Manhattan or Brooklyn, the let down when someone decides to leave the band due to artistic differences, and the insecurity this process can bring to someone. It's fucking hard.
But when one band closes another band door opens. Craig is already in a new band and I'm sitting here hoping he's honest with this band. Truly honest about everything...giving up finishing school for now(I'm furious about that lil fact I discovered)...being too tired for a date night here & there...giving up summer vacation in case he's going to tour with the band...pretty much giving up parts of his life before the band. The band knows he has an 8-5 job and they know about me, so I just hope they give him a life too outside of the band.
I'm trying to be super supportive of his journey and I understand it's hard because this band is new and he wants to make a committed first impression. I'm just hoping it doesn't draw us apart. Craig needs to realize he can have both - His life before and during the band in harmony together and it's something I don't think he has mastered yet. I really hope he can see it and make it happen. It wasn't always the easiest for him to have both in the last band in the past few months. I felt like I was there with him, but not really there "With" him. I have told him how I felt even though I'm trying to be supportive. He said he was going to try and separate as well as put the two parts of his life together. It's a process that I know won't come over night, but I'm still going to cross my fingers that it will! =)
I guess this is part of a relationship when people say you are never the same two people as when you first meet...
"I belong with you, you belong with me, you're my sweetheart..."
- Lumineers, "Hey Ho"
Craig's old band (Craig is 2nd to the right with the orange bass guitar next to the drummer)
Photo taken by me
Best of luck to C in his new band adventure. And much patience to you because it sounds really hard to be a band member's girlfriend!
ReplyDeleteHey dear, I'm sorry to hear about the 2 different
ReplyDeletelifestyle you guys are having! Its good to hear
the band knowing about you guys situation. I
wish you best of luck and I hope things will
eventually work out! Xx
wow thats a huge time committment to be in a band...and it does sound way hard to deal with for you! at least it is something he loves i guess!
ReplyDeleteMy cousin is in a band and his wife was telling me about all the times she doesn't see him, it's hard!
ReplyDeleteI agree with the previous comments. More power to you and I hope it all gets better for the both of you soon. :)
ReplyDeletei hope it works out for the best for the both of you!
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