Whitney, TV Show, 2012
When your in a long term relationship, how exactly do you prevent Smothering? No really...How? Especially when you live in a studio apartment with...hmmm how do I say this...Nowhere to go except the kitchen &/or the bathroom? Oh and this is after dating a little shy of three years, which means your lives are so intertwined that we can recite each other's schedules by heart? This is a big BIG issue that is coming around the corner soon.
But I think I have to take a step back and ask what is smothering exactly?? In my honest opinion, I think men and women have different perceptions of the word. Most definitely. For example, smothering to me is not giving me any space within a Queen sized bed. There is no reason to sprawled that far and about so you don'y give the other person room. Smothering to me is when I'm in the kitchen and someone is just watching me, making me nervous. Or asking immediately what's the matter when the event is still happening and I don't have a minute to even think. Smothering is needing an answer for a holiday that's two months away and being constantly reminded of it.
To Craig...I'm actually really confused as to what he thinks smothering is. I don't hang all over him when we go out, I actually can't remember the last time we held hands, he has guys nights, I basically let him have the television for his games and some days I barely go near him at all. But I think it was last week he was hoping I'd go to the gym because he claimed it was "Stuffy" in here. I took the "Stuffy" as he needed some space. He took back the statement because he thought he was being a jerk, but he still said it. When he took it back it actually confused me more.
I know we live in a small space and it's hard to cool down after a hard day at work, but I feel like this smothering thing that is just beginning and it frightens me. In a relationship where we communicate pretty often and well about our relationship I feel like we may be missing a key topic that needs to be addressed before it gets out of hand. We are definitely not on the same page and I'm hoping this comes up as naturally as possible.
He has a guy's night this weekend and I have the Bridal Shower and all the preparations that we will actually have some "alone" time apart from each other. Perhaps this is nothing at all, just jitters on my part, or this busy time will make this all a little clearer on the what smothering really is to him and me.
HOW DO YOU DEFINE SMOTHERING?
HAVE YOU EVER DEALT WITH THIS IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP OR PAST ONES?
I'd love to hear...
Whitney, TV Show, 2012