tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6725542767488222714.post6901051335320778093..comments2023-11-05T01:43:07.619-07:00Comments on Ergo... : Living Together + Planning Pretty Much Everything...Melaniehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12071477027784226840noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6725542767488222714.post-90492509994512066682013-04-09T05:59:48.524-07:002013-04-09T05:59:48.524-07:00I do not envy you. John and I are old so we hold f...I do not envy you. John and I are old so we hold family functions at our house -when we feel like it-. I like to keep them low key and relaxed, there is no pressure to come buy if you don't want to. When I was younger and married to my now ex we used to have to go to his parents house every-single-holiday... for 7 years. Fortunately, my parents are antisocial so we never had to worry about conflicting get togethers. mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14457900572853874272noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6725542767488222714.post-38679567400949716152013-04-04T17:38:26.753-07:002013-04-04T17:38:26.753-07:00I feel like this is never an easy situation! Ever...I feel like this is never an easy situation! Everyone has to deal with it in some way though! Fortunately (unfortunately?), hubby and I live in Florida and everyone else is in NY so we don't have to deal with it much...but when we do go up to visit, it's hard splitting our time and not seeming like we are playing favorites. Good luck, maybe it will all fall into place and you guys will get into a routine with things!? Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03933311040542595030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6725542767488222714.post-17727134681406173822013-04-04T13:46:38.350-07:002013-04-04T13:46:38.350-07:00My ex and I used to alternate. It was the only way...My ex and I used to alternate. It was the only way to do it. Izzy and I haven't quite figured it out yet.Why Girls Are Weirdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10206388129869459115noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6725542767488222714.post-14706579981849873152013-04-04T13:06:33.218-07:002013-04-04T13:06:33.218-07:00Wow, this is comical and difficult! I can't im...Wow, this is comical and difficult! I can't imagine knowing what I would be doing that far in advance, let alone planning for it. Good luck!<br />-Jamie<br /><a href="http://chatterblossom.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">ChatterBlossom</a>ChatterBlossomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16812718292807106583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6725542767488222714.post-25616554988296391562013-04-04T11:14:10.234-07:002013-04-04T11:14:10.234-07:00This is always a tough balance. A lot of people al...This is always a tough balance. A lot of people alternate years when they have a significant other - that's the approach I have always heard works best! Optimistic Existentialisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11507986337866049924noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6725542767488222714.post-47275235035771925332013-04-04T06:05:41.917-07:002013-04-04T06:05:41.917-07:00this is tough with us too. i have literally 3 fami...this is tough with us too. i have literally 3 family members haha (my parents and my sister). well, we have other family who live elsewhere who we don't see regularly. but my fiancee has about 30+ family members as well, so it gets tough. sometimes you just have to be the "bad guy" and step up and say "well if we did X with your family, maybe we can spend the next one with mine." something like that. things will never be even, but you just have to try to make it work the best you can. good luck!!<br />-- <a href="http://jackiejade.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">jackiejade.blogspot.com</a>jackie jadehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12445081275530729227noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6725542767488222714.post-26174909885152519162013-04-04T05:43:20.747-07:002013-04-04T05:43:20.747-07:00It seems that Craig's family is really really ...It seems that Craig's family is really really good at planning. I don't see that either my or Andy's families. But it's still always a struggle for us to find that balance of the two families. Shannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05940369749048830429noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6725542767488222714.post-40181954915049394662013-04-03T21:28:47.532-07:002013-04-03T21:28:47.532-07:00yes! marriage is funny that way! it is merging two...yes! marriage is funny that way! it is merging two families who have their own ways of doing things into one. it will take time but you will figure out how to balance both sides of the family! you learn to say no to some of the plans and plan some things for your side! it will take time but don't freak out. enjoy the differences - that is the key!Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09314375053949246450noreply@blogger.com